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Change Your View of Fighting in Relationships
Fighting and conflict in relationships can feel horrible. So it’s not surprising that most couples feel like it’s a set back to their progress. It’s such a common way of looking at it because, really, it seems to shake the stability and safety we rely on. Even though...
Don’t Let Tradition Ruin Your Holiday Cheer
Now don’t get me wrong. I LOVE traditions. They are comforting and a beautiful connection to the people of the past as well as the present. But things start to turn bad when traditions go from how I… GET.. to celebrate with others to how I.. HAVE… to meet...
Is Your Communication Helping or Hurting you?
Conflict Resolution for Healthy Communication Whether you are a boss speaking to your employees, a daughter to her mom, or friend to friend, the dynamics of communication are either working or not. Good or bad, your ability to communicate effectively touches all areas...
Get Rid of Negative People?
We’ve all heard someone say – “I need to get away from negative people”. You may have said it yourself and I know I’d said it in my pre-counselling life. ‘In order for me to thrive and be happy I need to stay away from certain people’. The hidden miracle and truth...
Get Out of Your Way! – Self Limiting Beliefs
Recognizing Self Limiting Beliefs I can be impatient when I drive. Its not something I like to admit but there it is. I’m often thinking or saying “get out of my way”! But if I’ve only learned one thing in the last decade of becoming and being a counsellor it’s that...
Anxiety and Depression – Is Medication the Answer?
Taking medication for anxiety and depression seems to be the accepted treatment but in my experience and my client’s, the side effects can be as bad or worse. So often the overall physical and mental health of the person isn’t even considered before recommending...
Calm Anxiety and Boost Confidence with Body Language
Have you been looking in the wrong places to calm anxiety and boost confidence? You’re not alone. Our feelings and thoughts are constantly being communicated whether we’re aware of it or not because most of what we’re saying is expressed through our body language not...
The One Thing for Dating and Public Speaking
What do dating and public speaking have in common? One thing. It’s this One Thing that separates the good speech from the great and a 1st date into a possible 2nd. I learned this One Thing in dating a long time ago. I was on a first date with a guy and I thought he...
Help! I Can’t Stop My Bad Habits
When Eating, Drinking and other behaviours become Bad Habits Sometimes the normal, healthy behaviours we engage in every day become out of control default behaviours, creating problems such as stress and anxiety. Unhealthy habits can be sneaky, starting with an...
The Use and Misuse of Power | Psychology Today
“We rightfully admire and love authorities–parents, teachers, bosses, political leaders–who hold their rank and use the power that comes with it in an exemplary way. Accepting their leadership entails no loss of self-respect or opportunity on the part of subordinates....
What Good are Our Emotions Anyway… Do We Really Need Them?
Do you wish you could get rid of your emotions? It does seem as if life would be easier without emotions sometimes. They make life messy and out of control when often we prefer tidy and controlled. Of course it’s not that simple…. Getting rid of ‘negative’ emotions...